Skip to main content

Posts

Showing posts from April, 2007

Affecting Other People's Lives

This is personal reflection. If you're not much into this kind of thing, stop reading. Consider yourself warned.

When are you most effective?

Effectiveness might be measured by how much effect you have on a certain aspect: work, life, relationships, the earth, the universe, your family, your dog's aptitude, and pretty much anything that can be affected and measured. But how do you know you're being an effective life partner, friend, manager, brother, sister, neighbor, or person? How do you measure the effect you have on other people?

I found out that you can't. That it all really depends on how you feel about other people and how you help other people become better people as you try to become better yourself. It's a matter of being appreciated, and being told that "you have affected me, and that I welcome your effect".

I found out it doesn't matter much what other people think about you, just as long as they're wrong. And that if ever other people hav…

The Pursuit of Happiness

What makes you happy?

I realized that it's not the money, it's not the sex, it's not the worldly possessions that I can/may/might/will/should have. It's the people around me and my relationship with them that makes me happy.

Of course money can allow me to buy things that will make my life more enjoyable, more comfortable, and more "full". The sex can bring me orgasmic natural highs which nothing else can substitute. The worldly possessions will bring me the status symbols and tangible things that other I can take comfort in.

However, unless I have friends, family, and neighbors that are affected and blessed by the blessings that I'm graced with, I'll continue living an empty life. No matter how much money, sex, and worldly possessions I have: as long as I don't have meaningful relationships with people around me, I have nothing.

Being among people I love and care about is that which really makes me happy. Everything else is secondary.

That's what …

So Many Things Going On...

I just came back from a very well deserved vacation -- days where I didn't have to think about work, and just went along with whatever was going on and relaxed. I needed that break badly, to let me go ahead and get away from the daily grind.

Although I actually do love what I'm doing at Friendster, it's been a while since I've been able to get away from work and live life to the fullest -- even just for a few days. Malaysia was a very refreshing place to be in because of the food, the people, and the vision of prosperity that I just hope the Philippines will be able to reach someday. Kuala Lumpur is beautiful in its simplicity in the midst of complexity, in unity amidst the diversity, and in progress amidst tradition.

What is very surprising are the roads: expansive, well maintained, and very well used. The only other time I was impressed by the roadwork was when I was in the US for the first time, on long drives on what seemed like endless roads, highways, bridges, exit…

Okay, I'm getting tired...

Of being alone.

I just got back from Malaysia, and have I got stories to tell. Too many things going on in my mind though, I'm still in vacation mode...

So I'll go ahead and write about the Malaysian Grand Prix (maybe post pictures as well) soon.

But this post is just to let everyone know that I'm tired of being alone -- and I'm going to go out there and find that someone for me. I'm 23, working for Friendster, with a full life ahead of me: and I don't want to spend it alone.

[contents removed based on a friend's advice] :D

CHill!