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just say no

being able to say no is something definitely not very hard to do (which before was something unheard of from me). i've been a busy person, and it's been a while since i prioritized myself for the sake of being aware that i need rest and that i need to do a lot of stuff for me.

sure, doing favors (little ones) are fine with me. there's no problem with lending a helping hand, and my friends know it. but then with my friends, there are limits. i could only help to a certain extent, and usually only to the point that i help them become more productive. i usually don't do things for other people that they can do for themselves already. if you know me, you know that much.

anyway, if you're not a special someone to me (or if more appropriately, if i don't know that i'm a special someone to you) then you can't expect any special treatment from me. you can't demand too much of my time, and neither can i demand from you -- not that i ever demand too much from other people).

obviously the person i so dearly loved (yes, i dare say that in the past tense) never knew me that way -- she always thought that i could be ordered around because then i did almost everything she asked me to. but now, i've finally said no to one of her requests. and i don't have bad feelings about it. unless of course my actions bring certain consequences that are undesirable (i need not mention any) that will haunt me forever, no regrets yet.

aside from not succumbing to the lure of a former love, i spent my time with friends -- real friends. with red wine, pasta, french bread, coffee, and a couple of movies (Amelie is really a must see movie), i would say that i spent my time quite nicely.

and after hearing a couple of stand up comics, my day drew to a close with a hearty laugh. now i'm writing this piece and reflecting -- why did i never ever do that before? why did i not pay attention to myself and live my life for me? well i guess this should be rebuilding time for me.

have a nice day everyone! :D i'm now beginning to chill...

btw, i'm still up figuring a few things out regarding my thesis. i hope i can come up with a couple of papers by the end of this week, so as to post them for review. :D until then, i'd be a busy code monkey. just drop me a line if you need anything from me, and i'll see if i could help you out. but don't always expect yes for an answer. :D

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